Free to be yourself

Generally, you are free to be yourself in front of a real good friend.

Don’t get me wrong! I’m not suggesting you to be self-opinionated, self-willed or be yourself stubbornly; instead, you can unload your burdens or masks and live comfortably in a safe area.

Hence, I sincerely hope that most of your friends in your list always give you support, courage and freedom.

＜自由的做自己＞

在知己的面前，一般上，您可以自由地活出自己。

別誤會，我不是要您固執己見或任性、倔強的做自己；而是在一個安全區域中，您可以卸下沈重的包袱或面具，輕鬆自在地活著。

因此，由衷希望您名單中大部分的朋友，總是給您支持、勇氣和自由。

Real good friend

The qualities of a real good friend:

They offer you what is hard to give. 

They help you for what is hard to do. 

They undergo with you what is hard to endure. 

They reveal their secrets to you. 

They keep your secrets. 

When misfortunes strike, they do not abandon you. 

When you're down and out, they do not look down on you. 

If your friend possesses one or more of the above qualities, you are no doubt the lucky person in the world. 

On the contrary, If your friends do not obtain any of above qualities, please don’t be disappointed.

First, use “diary” as your close friend who listens to you, tell it all your emotions and write down a self-encouraging quote everyday.

Then, perform a 10-minutes loving-kindness meditation daily to establish your own goodwill.

In the near future, good friends and great teachers will appear one after another in your life.

「善友」的特質：

他們提供您很難給予的所需。 

他們協助您哪些難以完成的事物。 

他們與您共度難以忍受的事情。 

他們向您透露他們的秘密。

他們保守您的秘密。

當不幸來襲時，他們不會放棄您。 

當您跌入人生谷底時， 他們不會瞧不起您。

倘若您的朋友具備以上其中一個或更多的特質，您顯然是世界上的幸運兒。

相反地，如果您身邊的友人，完全不具備以上任何特質，請不要就此感到失望。

首先，以「日記」作為聽您傾訴的朋友，並每天寫下一句勉勵自己的話語。

然後每天進行10分鐘的慈心觀，以便建立自己的善緣。

不久的將來，善友和善知識就會一一出現在您的生命中。

Reference:  Mitta Sutta